Anal stimulation is not just for women. Many men find pleasure in anal play. Men also have an erogenous zone that can only be accessed via anal stimulation. If women can love anal sex, why can’t men?
Before you begin exploring, there are some things you should know though. If you’re interested in adding pegging to your sex life, keep reading.
What Is Pegging?
In the simplest terms, pegging is when a woman puts on a strap-on with a dildo so she can penetrate her male partner, anally.
There are various harness devices that women can use. Some are shaped like an actual harness with straps that tighten around her legs and hips. The harness has a section where she can add a dildo or a vibrator. This is what she uses to penetrate her partner.
Other strap-on equipment fits like underwear with space for the dildo to attach. Some women like these better because they feel more natural; however, they may not feel as secure unless there is a way they can be tightened.
Some women may even want to look for a harness/dildo combo that is designed to give her pleasure, as well. Some of these come with a double dildo – one on the outside and one on the inside. Others come with vibrators on the inside of the base of the dildo. With sex toys like these, women will enjoy pegging as much as their men!
Why Do Some Men Like Being Pegged?
A few inches inside the rectum of men, there is a small gland called the prostate. It is about the size of a walnut and it’s filled with nerves. When it is stimulated via fingers or sex toys, it can bring a lot of pleasure to the man.
Many men aren’t even aware of the existence of the prostate outside of medical exams because of the social stigma of anything related to anal sex. If they know about it, they might be hesitant to explore the area because it’s so taboo.
Orgasms that come from anal play are often more intense and last longer. Some men say it is the best orgasm they’ve ever had.
While pegging is not the only way to stimulate the prostate and bring about mind-blowing orgasms, it definitely does the trick. When done correctly, pegging can be a healthy part of a mind-blowing sex life.
What Do You Need To Know Before You Begin Pegging?
Pegging is not something you should jump right into. The rectum is filled with delicate tissues that can rip and tear and if you’re not careful, you can get hurt or hurt the person you are pegging. It’s important to learn about anal play first.
Perhaps one of the most important things to understand about anal activity, including pegging, is that the rectum does not produce natural lubricant as the vagina does. That means you need to supply the lube!
There are many different kinds of lube, and the type you use will depend on what you like most and what characteristics you need to look for.
If you’re using condoms (as you should be if you’re having sex with anyone but a regular partner you’ve made the decision not to use condoms with), you need to make sure the lube you choose is suitable. Water-based and silicone lubes are almost always a good choice. Avoid anything that is oil-based if you’re using latex condoms because it can cause the condoms to break.
Before you move on to pegging, you should start with smaller anal play toys. Butt plugs and vibrating butt plugs can be a fun way to explore the prostate. They come in all sizes so start small and gradually increase the size.
Butt plugs are a great way to warm up, even if you’ve practiced pegging in the past.
What Positions Are Best For Pegging
Not every woman will find pegging to be easy. While men are used to the action of penetrating someone, this is totally new for most women. They may feel awkward and not be sure what they should be doing.
It’s a good idea to start pegging with a partner you know and trust. Whether you are being pegged or you are the pegger, you’re bound to feel a little weirdness. If you’re with someone you know and love, though, you’ll be able to communicate and work through it.
Oh, yes, and you’re probably going to laugh. You’ll make some mistakes and it will be strange to have the roles reversed, so nervous laughter is natural.
Now, if you’re ready to get started, what positions are best for pegging?
- All fours (or doggy style) – this is the position that seems to come most naturally for most people when engaging in anal sex. You can have both of you on the bed, him on all fours and her on her knees behind him. If your bed is very soft, this might not work well, though. If that’s the case, have him on all fours at the edge of the bed and her standing behind him.
- Face down, on his tummy – doggy style doesn’t work for everyone. Doggy style might be a challenge for you if he is very tall and she’s quite short. If you want to eliminate a height difference, have him lay on his stomach, face down. You can put a pillow or a wedge under his buttocks to raise his hips a little.
- Spooning – this position can remove the difficulties that arise with height differences, too. He’s the little spoon and she’s the big spoon. He can raise his top leg and move it forward and rest it on a pillow to give her better access.
- Missionary – this position is highly underrated when it comes to anal sex and pegging. In this position, couples can look intimately into each other’s eyes. One of you can stroke his cock to give him even more stimulation.
- Standing – have him face a wall and lean into it. She can stand behind him. Height differences can cause problems here, too; however, if you’re feeling a little adventurous, throw on some high-heeled boots and get up to his level!
- Cowboy/Reverse cowboy – this is one position that can completely get rid of any height issues. She lays on her back on the bed and he straddles her. When he’s facing her, she can stroke his cock while he mounts her and does most of the work. If he’s in the reverse cowboy position, he can stroke his cock while she uses her hands to run her nails up and down his flesh.
There are a multitude of ways that you can explore pegging. Once you have prepared for it, you and your partner may find it is an activity you enjoy. You can play with role reversal. You can experiment with different kinds of pleasures. One thing is for sure, you’re bound to spice up your marriage with this alternative sex play!