Did you have great angry sex with your partner the last time you had an argument? No? Then you’re missing out. Angry sex is the best part of getting into a disagreement when you’re in a relationship!
When you’re fighting over who does more housework or who spends more money you could just agree to disagree. But it’s much more fun to let your emotions and all that adrenaline turn into some amazing sex.
Disagreements in a relationship are pretty normal. If you never argue, there might even be a communications issue. Some people avoid arguing at all costs though because it brings out a lot of feelings and it reminds you that neither of you is perfect.
Angry Sex Isn’t About Causing Harm
Just remember that if you get worked up and decide to take advantage of all the adrenaline coursing through your veins, angry sex isn’t about hurting anyone. It’s not about getting revenge or showing the other person who has the upper hand.
Angry sex is about reminding the two of you that you care about each other. It’s about remembering why you are together in the first place and putting the issue aside for the moment to love each other.
Sometimes angry sex will take place before the issue is even resolved, in which case you’ll have to come back to it again. But if you’ve had sex and then come back to it later, your head will be clearer. Angry sex can also serve to remind you that the issues you were fighting about might not be that important.
Here are some great things to remember if you want to have great angry sex.
Do Let Your Feelings Turn To Arousal
When you have an argument, you get a huge adrenaline rush. It’s similar to what you might feel after you’ve gone for a long run, so it’s easy to relate it to something pleasurable. It’s also the same adrenaline rush you get when you’re turned on by someone.
Because of that adrenaline that’s coursing through your body, it’s pretty easy to transfer it from feelings of anger to feelings of arousal. Feel like stomping out of the room and slamming the door? Kiss her instead!
Take all the emotions and frustration you’re experiencing and transfer it to that kiss. You might be surprised at what happens! Instead of pushing you away, her body will respond and it will likely only take moments before you’ve completely forgotten what you were even fighting about.
Don’t Forget That Consent Still Matters
No matter what, your partner has a choice, and no matter how much that kiss might turn you on, it might not do the same for her. If she says no, remember that no means no. Angry sex does not equal forced sex.
Kiss her and then back off for a second or two. Look into her eyes and let her see how aroused you are. Let her see how much you love her. If she doesn’t walk away or tell you to fuck off, kiss her again, harder this time.
If she returns your kiss with passion, it’s game on!
Do Ditch Your Inhibitions
This is a great time to try things you’ve never done before. Get wild.
Some things that you might try include dirty talk, spanking, or even a little light slapping. As always, stop if she tells you she doesn’t like it.
Women might want to take advantage of all this energy, too. For some women, it is difficult to take the dominant role but when you’re angry and you’ve got a pile of adrenaline coursing through your veins is a great time to pin him down with your body, look into his eyes, and tell him exactly what you want him to do.
Don’t Bring The Fight Into The Sex
You’re done fighting so don’t bring up the point you were fighting about while you’re having sex. That won’t make the sex better. It will likely just make your partner mad again and end your fun.
You can come back to whatever the problem was later but for now, make hot and angry love with your partner. You can still feel angry but remember that this is someone you care about.
If the anger wears off, that’s good. Let it turn into a beautiful love-making session. Show your partner how much you care about them by bringing them pleasure. Focus on each other and how important your relationship is to the two of you and let it evolve into a passionate session of lovemaking. Or fucking until you pass out. Either one is fun for both of you.
Do Go With The Flow
When you’re having angry sex with your partner, don’t think too much about anything else besides the fact that you love this person. Remember that what you are doing is an expression of your feelings.
So, a little aggressiveness is ok. Enjoy the moment and do what feels right.
Don’t Withhold Sex To Get Your Way
If your partner initiates angry sex and you can see that they are really turned on, don’t use that to “win” the argument. If you do this, it will only make them resent it later.
Sex should never be used as a weapon to get what you want. If you’re feeling the passion vibes, go with it. But if you’re not, just say so. Remember that this passion your partner is feeling is natural and sex can be an awesome way to calm down so you can revisit the issue later on with a clear head.
Do Remember To Deal With The Original Issue Later
Having angry sex during a fight is not about avoiding the issue. Think of it as a time-out.
But after the passion-fueled sex session, you’re still going to have to deal with whatever you were fighting about. The good thing is that you’re going to come back to it all with a clear head. You’ll be able to talk again without the adrenaline that can cause you both to go off the rails and say things you don’t mean.