Women aren’t like men. They don’t get turned on by thinking about sex. They need more than that. So much more!
Of course, every woman is different. Turn-ons vary greatly so if you want to turn a woman on you’re going to have to do one thing from the beginning. Get to know her.
There are some things that might turn on most women but in order to really get a woman turned on, you’re going to have to find out what’s important to her. That in itself is a huge turn-on. A man that is willing to talk to a woman and find out who she really is will not only get some insight into the things that arouse her, but he’ll get her turned on to him with his attention.
Once you’ve spent some time getting to know a woman, here’s a massive list of things you can try to get her turned on to you.
#1 Give Her Compliments
Not just complimenting for the sake of complimenting but genuine compliments. If you can’t even give her a real compliment, what do you want to be with her for? Compliment something you like whether it is her eyes or her sense of humor.
#2 Be A Well-Dressed Man
If you wear a suit normally, that might do the trick but if you wear a suit that looks like you borrowed it from your dad twenty years ago, you’re going in the wrong direction. The type of clothes a man wears is not what makes him well-dressed. It is not the brand or the price of his clothes. It is how well he wears it. If you’re wearing jeans, find jeans that fit nicely and are clean. If you’re wearing dress shoes and a suit and tie, make sure the jacket fits properly and your shoes are shined. A man who takes pride in his appearance is hot!
#3 Have A Sense Of Humor
A good sense of humor is not going to mean the same to everyone. But if the two of you share the same kind of humor, she’s going to really think that’s sexy. If you get her jokes and if you can make jokes that make her laugh, she’s going to see that you’re the same kind of person. And really, who doesn’t like a good laugh?
#4 Have Self-Control
There’s nothing worse than a man who can’t control his emotions. There’s a time and a place to get emotional but the time is not when you’ve just finished dinner at a nice restaurant and the server is busy and he’s getting impatient and stands up in the middle of the room to yell at her while she’s at another table. It doesn’t matter who you think you are – you don’t do that. When things aren’t going exactly your way, you need to know how to control yourself.
#5 Be Eager To Please In Bed
When you get the privilege of being in her bed you’d better acknowledge that by being ready to please her. In order to do that you need to find out what she really wants. For some girls, it’s oral sex. For others, it’s your fingerwork. Listen to her and be ready to take a bit of direction.
#6 You Know How To Slow It Down
In a lot of things in life, rushing through things is not desirable. Do you slow down and enjoy the journey? Do you slow down and forego penetration until she’s happy? Whatever you’re doing, take it easy. Slow down and listen to her cues, enjoy the view, and don’t be in such a rush to get everywhere!
#7 You Can Cook
A lot of men think it’s not a big deal to learn to cook when there are restaurants you can take her to. But nothing will get a woman worked up more than a man who can cook and serve a real meal for her. Not macaroni and cheese but something that takes some thought. It doesn’t have to be Beef Wellington but homemade lasagna sounds good!
#8 You’re Not A Slob
If she comes over to your house for the first time and you have to clear a spot on the couch so you can make out, you’re never getting to the bedroom. Want to turn a woman on? Start by getting rid of half of your shit (because you know that pile of car magazines in the corner is never going to get looked at again) and then clean up. A man with a clean house is a man she’ll never have to nag to take out the garbage.
#9 You Can Take Care Of Yourself
You don’t have to be a marathon runner but get some exercise, don’t smoke, don’t get drunk every night, and drink some water. Take care of yourself so she doesn’t have to. A man who can take care of himself is hot as fuck!
#10 Trust Her With Your Secrets
You don’t have to tell her your deepest secrets on day one but if you tell her something about yourself that you don’t normally tell people, she’ll feel like you’ve let her into a secret part of your life. Being vulnerable is sexy.
#11 You Want Your Friends To Meet Her
If you hide inside with her while you Netflix and Chill all the time, she’ll think you’re ashamed of her. Want to turn her on? Tell her you can’t wait for your friends to meet her and take her out!
#12 You Want Her To Meet Your Parents
Even if your parents aren’t perfect, you have to introduce her if you want to keep her turned on to you. Tell your mom everything awesome about her and then bring her over for dinner.
#13 You Show Minor PDAs
Don’t go crazy but take her hand in public. Whispering in her ear. Put your arm around her. She’ll be turned on when she knows you want every other man out there to know she’s with you.
#14 You Smell Clean
Get clean. Stay clean. Because there’s nothing sexier than a man who smells like he just got out of the shower. You don’t even have to use aftershave or cologne. Most women are turned on by a man who just smells fresh and clean.
#15 You Show Your Passion
A man who can talk passionately about anything is pretty damn hot. It might be your stamp collection or the afternoons you spend at the community center coaching basketball. But get excited about something and then share it with her.
#16 You Use Your Brain Power
You don’t have to have a Ph.D. to turn a girl on but have something intelligent to talk about. Read a book. Keep up with world events. Be able to talk intelligently about music, art, or sports. A smart man is really attractive in most women’s eyes.
#17 You’re Show You’re Diverse
It’s great to have a passion. It’s cool that you know the stats for every single player that has ever played for the Boston Red Sox. But that better not be the only thing you can talk about. If you have to, go learn something new. Surprise her. She’ll think your wide range of interests is sexy as hell.
#18 You Encourage Her To Take Control
She might feel a little shy about it at first but encourage her to take the lead. It will give her confidence and show her that you trust her. On top of that, as she becomes more confident, she’ll be even more aroused by you.
#19 You Know How To Take Control
While it’s great to let her have control it really turns her on when you make your pleasure your business. Don’t be a greedy bastard but do hold down her hands and make her beg for it (but remember that consent is important – make sure this isn’t going to set off any triggers first). She might enjoy a little possessive dirty talk.
#20 Surprise Her
Don’t be too predictable. Bring her dinner when she’s had a rough day. Buy her that little trinket you know she’d love. Take her on a day trip. Plan a vacation for her. Surprise her with those kinds of little things that will get her so turned on that she won’t be able to keep her hands off you later!
