Guys, we know for many of you the dream is to find a woman who will try anal sex. But what do you do when you find a woman who will not only try it but loves it?
You might think you’re the boss when it comes to getting nasty in the sheets but you need to know this woman will rule when you get horizontal. She’s in touch with her sexuality and she knows what she likes. You’d better be prepared to bring the best moves.
Keep reading to learn how to truly impress a woman who loves a little backdoor action.
Here’s What You Need To Know About A Woman Who Loves Anal
Women who love to have their asses worshipped are not like other women. They are more confident, they aren’t afraid of new things, and they will tell you what they want. If you have any ick factors in bed, you’d better get over them quickly.
There’s a good chance that if she loves anal sex, she’s into some other freaky things as well. Maybe she’s into BDSM or she might like sex a little rougher. But don’t be presumptuous. Anal sex isn’t always about getting nasty.
Some women who love anal sex like the intimacy of the act. Just because she loves it doesn’t necessarily mean she gives up that specific privilege to anyone. You might have to earn it by getting her trust and showing her you’re not just down to use her.
Get to know her before you go this route with her. Find out what it is she likes about anal first. If you can understand what it is about the backdoor loving that gets her off, you can give her what she needs.
Ready? OK – Let’s Talk Anal Sex Tips
Even if you’ve tried anal sex before, if you’ve never been with a woman who truly loves anal sex before you need these tips. She knows what she likes and you have to be prepared to do things differently than you have in the past.
If you’ve been down the back love canal in the past, these tips will guide you to creating an experience both of you will enjoy.
- It’s not all about the pumping! In fact, anal sex is so much better if you take it slow and easy. Be prepared to go slow. The tissues inside the anal cavity are much more sensitive than the ones in her pussy. You don’t have to go hard to make her feel it. In fact, going too hard can cause a lot of damage, especially at the beginning. Ease in slowly. Let her feel every inch of you as you slide inside her. Unless she asks you to go faster or harder, keep it slow and sensual.
- You absolutely need lube. No matter how many porn videos you’ve watched where they just slip right in her ass, know it does not work like this in real life. She’ll likely already have her own favorite lube but if you’re at your place, make sure you have a good anal lube handy. Something that isn’t too sticky is preferable.
- Doggy-style is not the only position for anal. This might be the first position that comes to mind but there are lots of other ways to get access to that backdoor that feel really good. Missionary is a great position for anal if the two of you want to make eye contact. This can make backdoor sex more intimate and for some women, this is the appeal of anal sex. Spooning is also a very comfortable position for anal sex. Plus, it makes it easier for you to caress her breasts or even give her some clitoral stimulation at the same time.
- Don’t be macho. Even if you’ve had anal sex before, don’t act like you know what you’re doing if you don’t! She knows what works and what doesn’t and she knows not everyone is experienced at anal sex. Talk to her about it and learn from her. Don’t feel like you have to be the man all the time. Let her take the lead if she’s the one that has more experience.
- Just because she loves anal doesn’t mean she wants to be treated like a slut! This is important. Men have this idea in their heads sometimes about women who love sex. They think she must have a lot of it or she must be a true freak in the sheets. This isn’t necessarily true and it’s dangerous to assume that because she loves anal she might be what you consider to be a slut. What’s a slut anyway? It’s a term that really just puts negative connotations on a woman. That’s not to say that some women won’t like the “dirty” aspect of anal sex. Maybe she does want some dirty talk to go along with her backdoor thrusting. That’s why you need to talk to her about it before you do the deed!
- Expect a little bit of dirtiness – but not that kind. You’ve got to understand that sometimes, no matter how much prep she’s done beforehand, there could be some messiness involved. Even if she’s cleaned up back there, when you pull out, there might be a little bit of poop on the condom. Don’t freak out. If you can’t handle this you shouldn’t be going back there. Also, to avoid messiness, don’t pull out too fast. After you’ve both been satisfied, pull out slowly, otherwise you might get a little surprise.
- Condoms, condoms, condoms! Sure, she’s not going to get pregnant if you’re using the backdoor but there are still STIs/STDs and you need to use condoms. The anal tissues are going to tear and rip a little, even if you’re careful and go slow. That means that a woman is more susceptible to an infection when she has anal sex.
- Change condoms. Speaking of condoms, you might not be spending all your time in her back love canal. It’s not something you can do for extended periods of time. So, if you decided to go from ass to pussy, change the condoms. It only takes a few seconds so don’t be lazy!
- Communication is everything. When you’re having anal sex with someone, you need to talk to them. Ask her if it’s ok. Does she need you to slow down? Are you going too deep?
- Yes, she might orgasm. Being inside a woman while she’s having an anal orgasm is different than anything else you’ve ever experienced. It’s stronger. It’s more intense. And she might push you out. The best thing to do if she has an orgasm while you’re still in her ass is to stop pushing and just enjoy. The sensation you’re going to feel is going to blow your mind.
