Here’s Why Women Should Make The First Move More Often

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Things in the dating world have changed a lot over the past decades but when it comes to women making the first move, it’s not much different. Traditionally, men have always made the first move when it comes to dating, sex, and even long-term relationships.

Why Don’t Women Make The First Move More Often?

There are a lot of reasons why a woman might not make the first move when she’s interested in a man. Some of them are sociological. Other reasons might be psychological.

For many women, they are afraid that if they make the first move they’ll be thought of as aggressive. They worry it might scare off the man they are into. This could be true for some men. But, if he’s scared off because you’re confident in yourself and not afraid to go after what you want, is he really the kind of man you want?

Some women don’t make the first move because they are afraid of rejection. Rejection isn’t necessarily a bad thing though. Just think of it as a means of weeding out the men who are not worthy of your attention and love!

Making the first move might not be a socially accepted norm for women, but the more women take the first steps, the more normal it will become.

Here are some great reasons why women should make the first move more often.

He Might Not Be Sure If You’re Into Him

Not all men are great at picking up subtle cues when a woman is interested in them. He might be distracted by something (or someone) else and not have noticed you trying to make eye contact with him.

Sometimes, men are just clueless and they don’t see a good woman until she’s right in his face. Even if he does see you, he might not be thinking of making a move because he’s distracted by the hard day he had at work.

Whatever the reasons are that he didn’t make the first move, you can do it yourself and waste a lot less time!

Making The First Move Removes All Doubt

Been making some eye contact with the sexy guy across the room but you’re not sure if it’s intentional or not? Stop sitting there and wondering about it and just make the first move. When a man has made eye contact with a woman, he might be wondering the same thing!

People spend a lot of time doubting themselves, doubting other people, and wondering if they are misreading someone’s signals. Instead of sitting there in doubt, approach him with a smile and start a conversation. You’ll soon know if he’s into you, too!

Build Your Confidence

You might think that making the first move could be a way of getting turned down a lot. And there will be times when you don’t get what you want. But there will be a lot of time when you do get a positive response.

The more you make the first move, the more you will realize how sexy confidence is to a man. For most men, they don’t even realize that they want a woman to make the first move but once it happens to them, they’ll see how sexy it is. Many of them will respond accordingly. You might find yourself with more interest than you ever thought possible!

Your Interest Increases His Interest In You

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There is one thing that makes a man desire a woman more than anything else. Do you know what that is? It’s knowing that she’s interested in him!

Men get tired of having to be the ones to take all the risks. Sometimes, they enjoy knowing that a woman is into them and that showing their interest is risk-free. Even if he didn’t notice you before, he’s much more likely to find out he’s interested in getting to know you better if you show your interest in him first.

You Won’t Miss Out On Lost Opportunities

How many times in your life do you think you’ve missed out on the opportunity to get to know someone, date someone, or even hook up with someone simply because no one made the first move? It’s likely a lot of missed opportunities!

Instead of wondering, take a chance, make the first move, and find out if that guy you’ve been watching is the love of your life. Or maybe he’s only the love of the year, but either way, you could be missing out on a great opportunity to have fun with a great guy.

Waiting Is No Fun

No one likes to wait and if you don’t make the first move, you might end up waiting a long time before he does it. He might not realize you’re into him or he might have other things going on in his life that he just doesn’t think to make a move.

Whatever the reason is, both of you could spend a lot of time waiting for someone else to make a move. You could miss out on some great experiences, conversations, and other fun while you’re waiting!

What’s The Worst That Can Happen?

When anyone thinks about making a move on someone they’re interested in, they always think about the worst thing that could happen. So, let’s talk about that.

The worst thing that could happen if you make the first move on a guy you like could be that they aren’t into you, too. Well, that would suck. But is it really that big of a deal? Not really. Not everyone is going to like you. Time to move on and find someone who does appreciate you.
What if he laughs at you or makes fun of you in front of his friends? Well, you just avoided a huge mistake! You found out right off the bat that despite the fact that he’s hot, he’s a huge asshole. Definitely not worth your time!

The worst thing that can happen when you make the first move on a man is usually also the best thing that can happen. Instead of wasting your time developing feelings for a guy who’s not worthy of you, you find out right away and you move on.

Doesn’t seem so bad now, does it?

Written by Autumn Seave