A lot of men joke about dating MILFs. Even more men are serious about it and it’s their ultimate fantasy. The MILF has become a sort of urban legend that every young man dreams about.
But do you know what you’re getting into? There are a lot of misconceptions about MILFs. These myths are sometimes based on reality but a lot of the ideas about MILFs come from porn.
If you think you can handle dating a MILF, read this first!
What’s a MILF?
MILF stands for Mom I’d Like to Fuck. MILFs appeal to the fantasy of the all-knowing older woman. She symbolizes confidence and wisdom when it comes to sex.
A MILF is typically older than the man in question, but not always. Some women have children earlier in life, which would technically make them a MILF earlier. Others argue that in order to be considered a MILF you have to be at least 10 (some say 15) years older than the person you’re dating.
Also, most people think that MILFs are incredibly sexy. They have hot bodies and they love sex. In fact, they can’t wait to get into bed with a hot young stud that has the stamina to satisfy them. Is this true?
This is not always the case. A MILF may fit the standard of the all-knowing, sexually experienced, and erotically inclined women but she might also be looking for something more. She might be looking for a committed relationship and she might not be as experienced as you think she is.
If you’re thinking about dating a MILF, or even if you just want to have the pleasure of having a no-strings relationship with one, you need to think carefully. Are you really ready for this? Getting involved with a MILF is not like dating women your own age.
Some guys think it’s easier to only date MILFs (and if some ways, it might be) but MILFs come with their needs, wants, and desires, too.
Before you start going after that hot MILF at the grocery store, check this out.
#1 MILFs Know What They Want
There is one thing that you can be pretty sure of when it comes to MILFs. They know what they want. When it comes to life, dating, relationships, and almost everything else, they’ve lived enough that they are pretty sure what they are looking for.
Sometimes a MILF isn’t looking for a relationship. They already have a baby daddy (or two) and they might not want a man to help raise their children. That means that her time is limited. She might not want her kids to meet you at all or she may only let them know you as a friend. For you, that might mean there are no overnights at her place or you might not even be allowed to come to her house.
On the other hand, she might be tired of casual sex and is only looking for a man that’s going to be around for the long term.
In either case, you need to talk to her about this and understand what you may be in for.
#2 MILFs Don’t Wanna Play Games
A MILF has been through the teen years and the twenties and she’s probably done playing games with potential sexual partners. She’s not going to tolerate a guy that does things to manipulate her or to get her to do something she doesn’t want to do. If you like the “dating game,” you’re probably not ready to date a MILF.
No games means she expects honesty. If she asks you if you’re seeing anyone else, having sex with anyone else, or still on the dating apps and you lie about it, she’s going to find out. When she does, she’ll drop you in a flat minute.
Just be real with her. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. And don’t lead her to believe you can handle what she is looking for if you can’t!
#3 Not All MILFs Are Freaks in Bed
If you want to date a MILF because you think she’s going to be an animal between the sheets, just slow down. Just because she’s a MILF, it doesn’t mean she’s into anal sex or wants to tie you up! Get to know her a bit. Every MILF is unique.
It’s completely possible that your MILF might be looking for a man who can last all night and do all the kinky shit or at the very least will learn to do the kinky shit. Some women who are MILFs have been in long-term relationships all their lives and are tired of vanilla sex. They want to explore. Or they have been exploring and want more. But not all of them are the same!
Be prepared for the possibility that the MILF you are attracted to wants some sweet and simple vanilla sex that ends with some quality cuddling after. Maybe she just needs some pleasure that doesn’t come with pain.
#4 She Doesn’t Have All The Time In The World For You
If you want a MILF in your life because you think she’s going to cater to you, you’re definitely looking in the wrong direction! Most women in the MILF age range don’t have time for another child.
MILFs often have children of their own. They have jobs. Sometimes their careers are very demanding and they may work long hours. They have friendships that are important to them and she’s not going to ditch her friend to run over to your place, give you a blowjob and make you a sandwich!
If you’re going to get involved with a MILF, you’d better be prepared to take care of yourself and respect her time.
#5 She Knows What She Likes In And Out Of Bed
If you think you’re a superstar between the sheets and you’re not willing to try doing things a different way, you’re not going to get along with a MILF very well. She might be open to trying some new things, but you have to be able to consider doing things that work for her, too.
When it comes to sex, she already knows what is going to get her to an orgasm. She knows what positions she likes and she knows what is going to get her off. Some women have some very specific techniques that work for them. She’s likely going to tell you what she needs, so you need to be prepared to learn!
Outside the bedroom, she has an established life. If she allows you into that life, you should know that she’s not likely to change it for you. If you don’t know how to adapt, she likely won’t keep you around for long.
#6 The Bottom Line: She’s A Person
If you think that just because she’s a MILF you can walk into her life and treat her like a sex object to satisfy your personal needs, you’d better think again. Just because she fits your criteria for a MILF, it doesn’t mean she’s not a person with feelings, needs, and a life of her own.
Treating her like she’s a character in a porn video is not going to work. Porn is fiction. The vast majority of women do not want to be treated like that. You need to communicate and you need to listen.
In some ways, MILFs might be easier to date because they don’t play games and they know what they want. But that means you’re going to have to be a real man! Know yourself and be willing to do the work and you might be able to find a MILF that wants you in her life!
